

Here I go again.
The words tumble out before I can stop them, and then, by his expression, I realize the impact of what I have said. Oh, where is that gentleness I want in my heart, that softening, that love that guides me that makes me think of another first, and not myself? I want to take it all back again, Father. This was not the plan — to let my selfishness lead, my self-centered attitude that is blind to love, deaf to Your Spirit’s whispers. You are here, Your Spirit in me, Father, and yet I do not yield.
The damage done, my husband leaves the room.
Pride creates a gulf between hearts that seems to stretch for miles. I do not know what is best for myself, for others, on my own, without heeding the Father’s words in me, but I so often act like I do. I put myself on the throne and do not lean on His love to remind me the old self is dead and that it is the new self, His life in me, that brings His fruits of peace, love, gentleness, joy.
But I set out on my own a lot, not heeding His truth. And when I do that, I put myself before God. I let my pride, my confidence in myself, make choices that not only make me deaf to my Father’s will, but cause suffering to everyone around me.
I cannot sink any lower than when I yield to pride.
C.S. Lewis, in Mere Christianity, writes,
The essential vice, the utmost evil, is Pride. Unchastity, anger, greed, drunkenness, and all that, are mere flea bites in comparison: it was through Pride that the devil became the devil: Pride leads to every other vice: it is the complete anti-God state of mind. . . . Pride always means enmity — it is enmity. And not only enmity between man and man, but enmity to God.
Why do I do what I don’t want to do, Father? I don’t want my pride, my unwillingness to heed Your word, Your truth, separate me from this new life You have already come to give me. I know You do not condemn me, in my sin, but come to restore me again to You. I confess my brokenness, my putting myself before You, my not trusting You with all of me. I come to You on my knees.
For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh; for the willing is present in me, but the doing of the good is not. For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want. But if I am doing the very thing I do not want, I am no longer the one doing it, but sin which dwells in me (Romans 7: 18-20).
And I ask You to come for me, cleanse me of this Pride that causes harsh words rather than words of gentleness and love to pour forth from my lips. This is not the first time I have prayed this, Father, and here I am again. And I know, for my heart to be transformed, I need to remember who is first. It is not me. Forgive me, Father, for I act like it is me.
And the Father comes, and He gives me eyes for my heart. He shows me why I fall when I continue, on my own terms, to keep trying to rise.
My daughter, I am safe. I am mercy. Nothing else matters. All is under My wing. Pride — you are afraid of being criticized, torn down, made to feel less than what you hold yourself up to be. You have an image of yourself that rejects failure, how you perceive failure. And it is generational, this desire to be the best. You don’t like coming face to face with who you are. You fear you are not good enough. You believe failure is weakness. Fear of condemnation leads you to condemn others. You believe you are not good enough, even though you know that is not true.
It is a lie that you are better than — above — failure. You push against messages that make you feel less than you want to be. You don’t want people to think less of you.
{I have an idol of self. I care more about my pride, my self-preservation, what other people think of me, more than God.}
What if you weren’t considered special, My own?
But I am — we are — as His daughters, deeply desired and chosen. And we are loved as He has made us. We are given this life to love, with his love, in that freedom of life that comes with humility, humbleness, following our Father with everything we are.
Girls, is there an idol you worship more than God? Do you stumble again, even though you know He is for you, gave it all for you, that He is more than enough?
Cleanse us, Father. Break these lies, these whispers that distract us from You. In the name of Jesus’ name, we pray, come.